Sitting in bed after his five-year planning exercise, I asked him what traumas he was working through. Despite being the daughter of a social worker, or perhaps because of it, I still haven’t learned how to gently ask that question, or rather I still haven’t learned how to not ask it. “I’m actually doing really…
Send questions about the office, money, careers and work-life balance to workfriend@nytimes.com. Include your name and location, or a request to remain anonymous. Letters may be edited. Making a Midwest Move My partner and I are considering a move to Ohio because of the lower cost of living and the opportunity to have a good…
I went apple picking last weekend, along with about a million other people in the New York metro area. Is it me, or does recreational apple picking just continue to surge year over year as a fall activity? Some people are not into it, which I get, and yes, cynically speaking, it’s an excellent flannel-clad…
Robin Hood, the big kahuna of charity dinners, raised $77.5 million to fight poverty in New York City; the Oct. 20 gala drew 2,400 people to the Javits Center, including Wall Street titans, celebrities, politicians and philanthropists. God’s Love We Deliver, which provides meals to New Yorkers living with severe or chronic illness, honored Don…
A new analysis underscores concerns about how federal aid was allocated to health care institutions under the Provider Relief Fund, a $175-billion program that has drawn sharp criticism for giving so much money to the wealthiest U.S. hospitals. The study, published Friday in JAMA Health Forum, shows that more money flowed to hospitals that were…
Good morning. I’ve fried chicken in shallow pans and deep-sided, cast-iron chicken fryers, in a nasty bar-kitchen fryolator, in a super-clean one in a sparkling kitchen, in an as-seen-on-TV counter appliance, in a wok placed over a propane hob in the yard. I like the deep cast-iron skillet best, both for its even heat-keeping abilities…
There’s a moment in Sex and the City when Carrie Bradshaw realizes she has $40,000 worth of shoes in her closet and no actual savings account. “I will literally be the old lady who lived in her shoes,” she laments, staring at the wreckage of beauty and waste. Violet Gross recalls similar awakenings—and subsequent panic…
Buy Nothing is “the only reason why I’m still on Facebook,” said Mr. Stahl, who has been a member since March. “There is no community meeting place anymore,” he added, except on Buy Nothing, where a member of his group recently offered a half-eaten birthday cake — a gift members were happy to take. And…
A growing crop of professionals are guiding people with attention deficit disorder toward healthier behaviors, and self-acceptance.
Jay Ellis was buying snacks at a corner bodega in Harlem when a woman in a crop top and Ray-Bans approached him. “Oh my God, I’m so happy!” she said. This was on a sticky Monday in September, halfway through a walking tour of Harlem, where Mr. Ellis had lived, on and off, in the…