Forging Through ‘the Chaos of Life’ Together

Because marriage is an ever-evolving experience, we constantly shift, change and, in some cases, start over. In It’s No Secret, couples share thoughts about commitment and tell us what they have learned, revealing their secret to making it work. (Answers are edited for context and space.) Who Mary Sebonia Rhodes, 54, and Matt Rhodes, 61.…

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Love Letter: Want to Find Love? Stop Dating

In the modern age of dating, where your next suitor could be just a swipe away, some singles have grown tired of the revolving door of dates. In this week’s Modern Love essay, Gregory Walters, a writer living in Vancouver, decided to take a more carefree approach. He suspended his accounts on traditional dating apps…

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A ‘Final Fantasy’ Alliance Gets Real

On the day of Kate Armitage and Eric de Grandmont’s wedding, she trimmed his unruly eyebrows in the bathroom. Later, he buckled the glittery straps of her chunky-heel sandals while they sat together on the couch. The couple exchanged playful banter while getting ready as if they had shared a home for years, but they…

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Married at Dunkin’

Sugar Good, the manager of the Dunkin’ donuts store in Edmond, Okla., didn’t know much about the customer in the red truck other than that he was pleasant and consistent. Each weekday morning at 7:15, he idled at the drive-through window while she handed off his sausage, egg and cheese croissant and a large hot…

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Grateful for a Wedding in Prison

On the day Chelsea Moore got married, it had been six months since she last saw her fiancé, Christopher Blackwell. But now Ms. Moore, wearing a mask assigned to her, stood on a designated spot six feet from her soon-to-be husband. The room was empty save for a few chairs and tables and other seemingly…

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Winning at the Game of Love

Roxann Belle and Gaspar Stinfil began playing games with each other on the night they met, in October 2017. “I hosted a game night at my house, and though I had never met Roxann before, she was one of the guests,” said Mr. Stinfil, 34, a senior vice president for investment banking at Siebert Williams…

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Despite Everything, People Still Have Weddings at ‘Plantation’ Sites

The resurgence of the Black Lives Matter movement this spring spelled the end for many Confederate symbols. Monuments have been removed, by vote and by force. But those symbols include the romanticized imagery of weddings on Southern “plantations,” a practice that carries on. These properties were forced work camps, where enslaved Africans and their descendants…

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Love Letter: Introducing the New Modern Love Podcast

The Modern Love podcast is back! Daniel Jones and I will be hosting the new 10-episode season. Every Wednesday until the end of December, we’ll bring you our favorite essays, author updates and Tiny Love Stories (read by the people who wrote them). Listen to the first episode, “Driveway Elegies,” to hear two heartbreaking stories…

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In Love and Out of Debt

Haley Messner and Tanner Cemper do not disagree that 2020 has been a difficult year. But for them, it’s a tossup on whether 2019 might have been worse. Ms. Messner said she was “pretty homeless” for a while that year. Mr. Cemper, too, spent a solid part of it feeling he had skidded off the…

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Five Years Later, the Third Time’s the Charm

On a Friday evening in October 2015, Amol Somnath Naik wanted to head home for the day. He was working for Google at the time, and had spent the week accompanying an out-of-town executive to meetings in Atlanta. The final event of the week was a dinner to discuss diversity in the city’s tech industry.…

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