Although the allure of a casual encounter often hangs on the notion of a carefree entanglement, there are actually some rules when it comes to hooking up. Top of the list is keeping your involvement brief.
When Sheila Ongwae, the writer of this week’s Modern Love essay, met Albert, she was not turned off by his reputation of being noncommittal. In fact, she found him to be perfect for a summer fling, her first.
Twelve years after meeting, and countless relationship woes later, they had managed to maintain their intermittent arrangement. Although they had never intended to be more than a hookup, they finally found themselves entertaining the idea of something more.
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