“On gay dating apps, East Asians routinely face dehumanization that reduces us to nothing more than featureless clones in the eyes of others,” Preston Gyuwon So writes in this week’s Modern Love essay.
“We either get the racist ‘no Asians’ or ‘no rice’ cold shoulder, or we get fawning treatment that can feel worse — yellow fever, the dreaded Asian fetish.”
Worn down by near constant indignities while dating, Mr. So finds liberation in a latex fetish, which allows him “to become featureless and faceless, to vanish into the bliss of latex’s skintight embrace.”