During Karli Nicolle Gray and Elizabeth Catherine Smith’s first dance at their wedding, the two kept whispering to each other, “Is this over yet?” Not because they wanted the wedding to end, but because neither of them likes to dance.
That exact quality was part of Ms. Smith’s attraction to Ms. Gray when she first saw her profile on the lesbian dating app Her.
“She was cute in her pictures, and she said she doesn’t dance,” said Ms. Smith, who goes by Ellie. “I don’t dance either, so I figured we can not dance together.”
When they first connected in September 2022, Ms. Smith, 34, had just relocated for work from Boston to Portland, Ore., where Ms. Gray, 36, lived with her mother.
“She was still in the process of building her furniture,” Ms. Gray said. Ms. Smith was so distracted by settling in, that after messaging back and forth, “she suddenly ghosted for two weeks.”
Ms. Smith tried to pick things back up once she was ready. “I tried to text her again,” she said, thinking, “if she doesn’t reply, then it wasn’t meant to be.”
