Dr. Charles Murphy was one of the first physicians in New York State to treat the initial wave of patients who tested positive for Covid-19.
This was in early March at NewYork-Presbyterian/Columbia University Irving Medical Center, where Dr. Murphy, a 33-year-old pulmonary and critical care fellow, worked with Dr. Nina Suda, a 33-year-old endocrinology fellow. The two had been dating for three and a half years.
“I was so proud of Charlie because I know what a terrific, dedicated doctor he is and just how much he cares about his patients,” said Dr. Suda, who met Dr. Murphy in June 2015 during their internal medicine residency at the Montefiore Medical Center / Albert Einstein College of Medicine in the Bronx.
“Believe me,” said Dr. Suda, laughing, “whenever I talk about Charlie, I could go on and on and on.”
By late March, Dr. Murphy learned he had been exposed to the coronavirus, becoming one of the first physicians in the state to be sent home to quarantine. Dr. Suda began wondering just how long she could go on if the man she loved and was engaged to had contracted the virus.
“When Charlie called to tell me what was going on, my heart just dropped to my stomach,” she said. “My mind just went blank. I had a million questions, and yet I was speechless.”
A shortage of Covid-19 tests meant Dr. Murphy would need to isolate for two weeks, watching for symptoms.
“Needless to say, I was very worried and very scared,” said Dr. Suda, who was working an early-afternoon shift at an outpatient clinic at the hospital when she received Dr. Murphy’s frightening call. “Charlie never called me at that time,” she said. “I knew something was wrong.”
Dr. Murphy, who lived in the nearby Hamilton Heights neighborhood of Manhattan, said he “felt helpless” in quarantine. “It was a scary, uncertain time in my life,” he said. “It was so odd to be sitting at home and knowing I couldn’t help those patients who had been counting on me.”
He said his parents were helpful by dropping off food and other supplies at his front door. But, he added, “It was really Nina who helped me keep my sanity.”
Dr. Suda brought Dr. Murphy dinner most nights during his quarantine, “which made me feel quite conflicted,” Dr. Murphy said. “Despite the fact that I really wanted to see her, I knew, as she did, that her presence put her at great risk of getting sick, or worse,” he said. “I would have never forgiven myself had anything ever happened to her.”
“But it didn’t matter what I said or what I thought,” Dr. Murphy said with a sigh, “because she was not taking ‘no,’ for an answer.”
Both took many precautions. Each wore a surgical mask and stayed at least six feet apart. And when Dr. Suda, who lived on Manhattan’s Upper West Side, turned the knob on Dr. Murphy’s front door, she used a disinfectant wipe.
“Other than following the standard safety procedures, I tried to act as normal as possible whenever I was around him during those two difficult weeks,” Dr. Suda said. “I didn’t want to make him feel like he was radioactive.”
But all Dr. Murphy was feeling from his first day of quarantine, until his last, was fine.“ “During the first five or six days, he had not developed any symptoms of the coronavirus, which was a very good sign,” Dr. Suda said. “By Day 14, he was emotionally spent but still exhibited no signs that he had contracted the virus.”
“Suddenly,” she said, “we felt this great sense of relief come over us, and we were thrilled to be going back to our normal, everyday lives.”
Dr. Suda first took notice of Dr. Murphy during their orientation in 2015 at the Montefiore Medical Center / Albert Einstein College of Medicine. He had just returned from a trip to India, and she could just about see the flecks of sunshine still dancing on what she called his “beautiful, dark complexion.”
“He already had the tall and handsome thing going on,” Dr. Suda said. “He also had this charming glow about him that made me curious about his ethnicity, but we both had very busy jobs ahead of us, so I let it go at that.”
Dr. Murphy, who is 6 foot 2, says he is “100 percent Irish,” and “maybe I’m like 10 percent Italian.” Dr. Suda, 5-3, is of Indian descent.
The first time Dr. Murphy said he spotted her, “I remembered thinking to myself, ‘Man, “I wouldn’t mind going out with her.’ She was gorgeous.”
They became friends, and both secretly hoped to be paired in the same medical rotation (a two-week span during which they would share the same patients and specific duties). And just maybe when their shifts were over, they could have dinner and drinks.
“Incredibly, a whole year went by and we were never paired in the same rotation,” Dr. Murphy said. “It was hard to believe.”
At the beginning of their second year as residents, in July 2016, they were finally paired in an exclusive medical rotation for the first and only time.
Once was all they needed. “From a personality standpoint she was very easy to talk to,” Dr. Murphy said. “She was exceedingly warm and bubbly with a self-deprecating sense of humor, which I found very charming.
“On top of everything else, she was so beautiful,” he added. “It only took a few short months for me to realize that everything I wanted in a woman was there — right there in front of me — and I knew she was the one I wanted to marry.”
They began seeing each other before and after shifts, with plenty of subjects to cover, including education and family.
Dr. Suda graduated cum laude from Columbia, where she played four years of Division I tennis, and was a team captain. She also received a medical degree from Drexel.
Dr. Murphy graduated from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and received a medical degree from Louisiana State University in New Orleans. He also served as a Teach for America Corps member between college and medical school, from June 2009 to June 2011, teaching elementary special education in New Orleans.
“Other than his overall intelligence, Charlie was such an interesting person to me, a world traveler with so much of his experiences to share,” Dr. Suda said. “He often challenged me on an intellectual level, which was very attractive to me.”
The couple married on June 13, their originally scheduled date. But the presence of the coronavirus and all the social restrictions attached to it forced them to abandon plans for an elaborate, 250-guest wedding ceremony that was to be followed by a Western reception — “meaning I was to wear a white wedding dress and he a tuxedo” — at the Hyatt Regency Jersey City on the Hudson.
The couple decided instead to have a much smaller ceremony and reception on the backyard deck of the bride’s parents’ home in Kinnelon, N.J. Fifteen guests, including her parents, Dr. Abhay Suda and Dr. Anjuli Suda, and his, Julia Murphy and George Murphy of Fairfield, Conn., and others via Zoom, watched as the bride and groom stood before Pratap Singhal, a Hindu priest.
Though the couple opted not to exchange vows, the groom’s mother read the Thomas Moore poem “In the Morning of Life.” The bride said it “was chosen for it’s bittersweet sentiments, given Covid.”
On This Day
When June 13, 2020
Where The home of the bride’s parents in Kinnelon, N.J.
No Scrubs The bride wore a handmade ivory silk bridal lehenga and veil with zardosi, sequin and crystal embroidery. “Typically in an Indian wedding the bride wears all red and maroon, but since this was a fusion wedding we wanted both cultures to be represented,” the bride said. The groom wore a custom ivory banarasi brocade sherwani, keeping the consistency with maroon accents on the collar and wrist.
The Attendants The groom’s best man was his fraternal twin brother, Tom Murphy. The maids of honor were the bride’s sister, Dr. Nisha Suda, and her cousin, Raveena Suda.
First Dance The couple’s first dance was to “Barfly” by Ray LaMontagne.
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