Lila Lancaster Seiler Dupree and Daniel Lee Adair were married Sept. 15 at Wasgat Cove, the summer home of the bride’s family in Northeast Harbor, Me. James Buchanan, a friend of the couple who became a Universal Life minister for the event, officiated.
The bride, 38, is an actor, producer and writer in Los Angeles. She recently played Katya in a seven-week run of Patrick Marber’s adaptation of Turgenev’s “Three Days in the Country” at Antaeus Theater Company in Los Angeles. She is also the writer and producer for “The Witch Hunt,” an all-female comedy variety show currently in residence at the El Portal Theater, also in Los Angeles. She was also in “Lethal Admirer,” a Lifetime movie, which aired earlier this year. She graduated from Columbia and completed postgraduate training at the London Academy of Music and Dramatic Art and at the Atlantic Acting School in New York.
She is the daughter of Sunny A. S. Dupree of Cambridge, Mass., and the late Frederick F. Dupree Jr. The bride’s mother retired as an assistant attorney general, in Boston, for the Massachusetts attorney general. The bride’s father was a real estate developer in Cambridge.
The groom, 33, is a director of product at Scopely, a mobile game publisher based in Los Angeles. He graduated from Johns Hopkins University and received an M.B.A. from Columbia.
He is the son of Catherine Steiner-Adair and Fred L. Adair of Cambridge. The groom’s mother is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Cambridge. His father is the principal at Adair Leadership Consulting, a management consulting firm, also in Cambridge.
The couple met in September 1992, at the Shady Hill School in Cambridge, where Ms. Dupree, then in seventh grade, was paired for the year with a first grader, who happened to be Mr. Adair.
“He was shy but very sweet and very smart,” Ms. Dupree said. “Since I had never babysat before, I felt like I wasn’t connecting with him, but then I offered him a piggyback ride and that changed everything, he suddenly became much more verbal.”
And much more affectionate.
“I absolutely had a huge crush on her,” Mr. Adair said.
He was so taken with her that he went to go see her perform in a school rendition of the “Nutcracker,” holding a bouquet of flowers in one hand, and his mother’s hand in the other.
In November 2009, Mr. Adair friended her on Facebook, and they got together for a quick cup of coffee in Manhattan. She was 28. He was 23.
“He was really cute,” Ms. Dupree said. “But I had just taken a job in Los Angeles, and I had a boyfriend.”
They didn’t see each other again until six years later, when Ms. Dupree, now unattached, noticed on Facebook that Mr. Adair had posted something from London, where she was planning a vacation with friends to celebrate her birthday.
She reached out to him in May 2016, which pleasantly surprised Mr. Adair, who had just begun a six- month work assignment in London. “I was like, ‘Oh my God, it’s Lila Dupree.’” he recalled thinking.
They met in London shortly thereafter, and though Mr. Adair said that Ms. Dupree “looked great,” romance was not on his mind. “Our mothers were friends and I didn’t want anything negative getting back to them,” he said. “So while I was certainly attracted to Lila, I was very much in the mind-set of we were old friends just catching up.”
Ms. Dupree had a different mind-set as the first date drew to a close. “I didn’t want the night to end,” she said.
She told him as much when he thought he was taking her home at 1 a.m. after they had spent time in a London bar. “Where are we going next?” she asked him.
That’s when it clicked for him. “I immediately thought to myself, ‘Wow, we’re on our first date,’” he said.
They spent the rest of Ms. Dupree’s vacation together, and shortly after she returned to Los Angeles, they met again in New York, where they both agreed that “this was a forever thing,” as Ms. Dupree put it.
