Are you divorced? Do you have children? Don’t you remember the last time you were on a date or were looking forward to meeting a man you like? Do you feel, to say the least of it, not very good? It is inevitable and thrilling, but we will tell you what steps to make, if you want to start dating and find your man.
Rule #1. Chemistry does not guarantee a relationship
You are used to a stable and long relationship. It is over, but you subconsciously expect from each new acquaintance the same bad story.
Let us help you become sensible again: attraction and sexual desire do not always mean that you will have a serious relationship. Life provides a variety of scenarios: it is quite possible that everything will be limited to just one passionate night or several non-binding dates.
If you agree only to a serious relationship and are looking for love rather than adventures – you should make yourself clear on the very first date. Do not waste your time.
Rule #2. Make sure that the relationship with your ex-boyfriend is already in the past
Have you let go of the past and finally survived the separation, having managed to heal your spiritual wounds? If the answer is a firm “yes” – feel free to go on a date.
If in the evenings you still struggle with the desire to write to the ex-boyfriend or cry in the pillow – do not rush to have a new date. A new man is not the best way to forget the previous one, although it helps some. But if the feelings are still alive, nothing will work out anyway.
For new acquaintances, dates and relationships, your heart should be free from previous love and resentment. The only “baggage” that is worth taking with you from the past is experience. Do not make the same mistakes when choosing men similar to the ex-boyfriend: you already know that it is impossible to build a relationship with such a guy.
Rule #3. Don’t hurry
Three months have passed, and you still haven’t got a boyfriend? Or even worse: your ex-partner has a new girlfriend, and you haven’t even been on a date yet?
Stop! This is not the reason to worry. There is no need to urgently sign up in the dating application and attend five dates a week. Do not speed up your life. Let everything go as it should.
New love will come when at the moment most appropriate.
Rule #4. Do not conceal the fact of having children
Do you have children from a previous relationship? Do not conceal this fact. Yes: this can scare away some men (let them go away: you don’t need such men). But if you keep silent about the children or tell about them after six months of dating, it will be a doubtful surprise.
Don’t rush to introduce your children to the man. Do this only if the relationship becomes truly serious, and the man is ready for this step and asks to get to know them.
Rule #5. Feel free to ask for help
Sometimes it happens that you can’t quickly survive the breaking up. No matter how hard you try, bad mood and sad thoughts do not let go. These are alarming signals: you are facing the risk of a depression.
