you asked: Of Age and Pleasure

I used to be able to orgasm easily, but now it is very difficult. I have to hit the exact spot in exactly the right way. Is there anything I can do to improve this? I can orgasm when I masturbate, but not usually with my partner. I’m 60+. Help! — Anonymous, Dallas [Have a…

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A Daunting Operation Offers Relief to Obese Teenagers

At least six million obese teenagers in the United States are candidates for weight-loss surgery, experts estimate. Fewer than 1,000 of them get it each year. Many of these adolescents already have complications of obesity, like diabetes or high blood pressure. But doctors have been uncertain just how well surgery works for young patients, and…

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Work Friend: When a Dream Job Means Less Money

Send questions about the office, money, careers and work-life balance to workfriend@nytimes.com. Include your name and location, even if you want them withheld. Letters may be edited. Fish/Pond Arbitrage What is the protocol for negotiating salary in a market with a dramatically lower cost of living? I’ve been putting off a potentially amazing position in…

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Hungry City: Nigerian Soups and Jollof Rice at Hills Kitchen in Brooklyn

The stew arrives in a jumble: irregular pieces of bone-in goat meat coated with a brilliant fire-engine-red sauce. Thick like a blanket in February, the sauce is a blend of fresh tomatoes, peppers and tomato paste that’s cooked down until nearly burly, just shy of smooth. It clings lazily to the goat, the meat soft…

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Thank God This Styling Trick is Trending, Because I Head-Sweat

While there are an infinite number of ways to wear a scarf (trust me, I’ve tried them all), one easy-to-wear look is going to dominate your Instagram feed this summer. Forget Dad style, I’m ready for Grandma style, starting with my scarves. Many of our faves have tied their scarf in this way: Queen Elizabeth…

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The Pour: In Texas, Winemakers Find Room to Roam

FREDERICKSBURG, Tex. — From a porch swing at the Southold Farm & Cellar tasting room outside this small city in Texas Hill Country, a vista of scrubby ranchland stretches to the horizon. A house on a hill looms invitingly nearby, constructed by the Southold proprietors, Regan and Carey Meador, after they moved here in 2017…

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Why Eating Processed Foods Might Make You Fat

In recent years, many nutrition experts have linked the obesity epidemic to the spread of ultra-processed foods that are engineered to have a long shelf life and irresistible combinations of salt, sugar, fat and other additives. These foods tend to make people overeat because they are full of refined carbohydrates, added sugars and fat that…

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36 Hours in Dakar

The westernmost point of continental Africa, Dakar is a cosmopolitan desert landscape that juts into the emerald Atlantic. With its brightly painted minibuses, wooden boats and a flair for colorful fashion, the capital of Senegal is a paradise of cool. Men waddle down the road in wetsuits pulled to their waists and surfboards tucked under…

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