For many, the thought of having a personal chef whip up a Michelin-worthy meal in your home sounds like a dream come true. However, when Rebecca Bohanan, a writer in Los Angeles, started dating a chef who worked late nights and insisted on cooking elaborate meals between the hours of midnight and 2 a.m. for their dates, she found herself sleep deprived and losing sight of her dreams.

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When Luis Solis and Hailey Terrell met at a New Year’s Eve party last year in Boulder, Colo., both were divorced and wary of new love. Still, they made plans to attend a concert together in Aspen. Their connection was evident on that date, but it was the weeks they spent sheltered together because of the pandemic that “created an incredible foundation” for a future together. The couple married on Sept. 26, at the Boulder Adventure Lodge.

And, if you’re feeling anxious, rest and self-love might do the trick. “We need to be OK with comforting ourselves, and with some escapism,” said Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the George Washington University School of Medicine and Health Sciences.

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