“You are only mine,” the woman thinks about her husband, meaning that he has chosen her among the other candidates whom he encountered in his life. However, sometimes, when you stop competing with female rivals, a new war for the man‘s attention starts – this time with his mother. This is an unpleasant surprise, for sure. Are you still thinking your man is not a mama’s boy? Read our text and check it out.
What makes a man a mama’s boy?
Mama’s boys usually have very authoritarian mothers who completely kill the initiative and create an unhealthy psychological climate becoming the whole world for their child. As a result, the boy can not decide or do anything without his mother. He must always ask if he may do something and whether it is worth it. Moreover, he does it throughout his life regardless of age, social status, education, and other factors.
Helicopter parenting
The reason for everything is overprotection, the so-called helicopter parenting. However, the overprotection of an authoritarian mother is different from the overprotection of a mother hen. Children tend to break away from the latter and run as far as possible to build their lives. However, with the former, the child’s point of view is narrowed only to his mother’s opinion. The authority of the mother extends to adulthood when her word is still final.
Noone can replace such a mother – she becomes a vital need – like breathing, like eating. Mother is a life-supporting need. Naturally, no woman, no matter how beautiful, can ever take his mother’s place. Unfortunately, when an authoritarian mother dies, the son often follows her.
10 signs your man is a mama’s boy
Your man often quotes his mother. Most importantly, he does this with a shade of awe, as if confirming that the mother’s opinion is the only truth. “Mother said that”, “Mom thinks so”.
You notice that your man mostly talks on the phone with his mother. They talk several times a day discussing all kinds of topics. Mom is always on top of the list of his recent telephone contacts.
Your man‘s mum is always up to date with your intimate life. There is nothing wrong in discussing your relationship with your parents. Perhaps they will be able to give you advice based on their experience. However, discussing everything with mom is more common for women, not men. Besides, this should not touch upon your intimate life.
Your man’s mother still buys him underwear. Underwear is such an intimate thing that adults buy it themselves, or their wives /husbands do it. If a mother still buys her grown-up son underwear and clothes – you should think carefully.
His always takes his mother’s side, not yours, in disputes and disagreements, even when you express your dissatisfaction. Unfortunately, you have to admit that you have no authority, and your man chooses his mother over you.
He constantly compares you to your mother. As a rule, the comparison is not always in your favor: she cooks better, washes better, cleans better. All in all, everything you do or do not do is considered through the prism of his mother’s talents.
Mama’s request is a law. Your man can sacrifice your plans together and rush to his mother to help her. Of course, situations are different, sometimes you really need help. However, if it is repeated from time to time, and the matters are trifling, then it turns out that your man is a mama’s boy.
Your man refuses to take responsibility in a difficult situation. It’s no secret that women need a strong man’s shoulder, support and help with word and deed. However, in a difficult situation, your man disappears, you can not rely on him. He expects you to do everything and solve problems because his mom has always done it for him since his childhood.
A man can not refuse his mother. We sometimes have to say “no” to our loved ones. Psychologists even advise doing this more often to learn how to build our own boundaries. A mama’s boy can not refuse his mother’s request, because there are no boundaries in their relations – only authoritarian submission.
A man depends on his mother financially or still gives her all the salary, and she allots the amount you can live on. In the first case, there is no need to comment – run away from such a man without a second thought. In the second case, your beloved still does not feel independent so the way out is the same: run.
What should you do if you suddenly discover that your man, despite all your feelings for him, is a mama’s boy? The choice of whether to stay with such a man is, of course, only yours.
What should I know?
The fact that he will never change or consider you more important than his mother because the priorities in his head have long been set. You can accept the situation and, if your feelings are deep enough, be close to your loved one and his mother. We can wish you only angelic patience and happiness.
Accepting the situation means stopping all wars with his mother, laying down the arms and surrender completely and unconditionally. If you like being in a state of permanent military action – it’s also an option. If you are tired of wars and want to have a strong shoulder to lean on, there is one tip – look for another man who will meet all your requirements. It is impossible to re-educate an adult person, especially if this person is a mama’s boy.
